What has happened? Well, I don't know the details. What I do know is that Dahvie, the singer, has apparently being harassing, cursing, slandering and assaulting fans and fellow artists for a good while now, and he did something to New Years Day's singer, Ash Costello, that resulted in New Years Day standing up to Dahvie and BOTDF, and ultimately ended with them being kicked off their mutual tour.
As a Creep (NYD fan), I just want to say this: I seriously want to kill Dahvie now. Nobody fucks with Ash and gets away with it. (Seriously, has he not seen their music videos? All of them have Ash either killing, injuring or severely fucking with some douchebag who did her wrong.)
Before you start getting all 'Oh my God you need to warn for death!', I don't mean that my friend died. I mean that I was forced to ditch her due to an irredeemable clash of opinions.
By which I mean, she's transphobic. And I am not happy.
( Cut for discussion of transphobia. )
Fairy tales are fucked up, man.
I don't just mean the old ones where people got killed and tortured and all that shit. I mean the messages they send. And not just how heteronormative they are. Let me explain.
I read a very intriguing article on Cracked where the author stated that part of the reason men get angry at women so often- and resort to throwing 'slut' and 'whore' around so often- is because from birth, they're raised to believe that they will get the girl. Think about it. In teenage fiction, in fairy tales, how does it end? Boy gets girl. Girl will unfailingly fall for boy, she probably won't have a personality to speak of, there will be no doubting or mistrust or actual romance or any of that shit. Boy gets girl. That's the end of it. And then the guys grow up and don't get the girls. The girls don't fall into their arms and fuck them at first sight. Many simply aren't interested. Others aren't into guys at all. Many think they're horrible beings of chaos. The boys' expectations are crushed. They are left frustrated and confused. This does not make them happy.
Some of them turn out to be gay, and then they have to deal with a world that doesn't endlessly support the idea that guys can be in love. This can end badly.
And the thing is, it's not just the guys. The girls grow up believing that they'll find their Prince Charming, and then they come to the realisation that many guys (not all, but quite a few) are crude, dickish, sex-obsessed wankers. The ones they think are Prince Charming are probably arseholes. The ones they won't look at are probably the closest thing they'll find to a Prince Charming. This does not make them happy.
Some of them turn out to be lesbians, and then they have to deal with the same things that the gay guys do. This can also end badly.
And some of them turn out to be bisexual, and then they get to deal with looking for Prince or Princess Charming, and quite possibly getting shit from all sides at once.
My best friend once told me about a play she was in at high school. The play was Picnic at Hanging Rock, and though it was an all-girl school, they decided to get some drama students from their brother college in to play the guy parts rather than giving them to the girls. Those guys basically were in heaven, surrounded by girls who couldn't pass up the opportunity to meet guys who weren't their friends' arseholish little brothers. My friend, who I believe was always gorgeous (in her opinion, she was gawky), got ignored by the guys. A couple of months ago, she encountered some of them in a bar. My friend has grown into an absolutely gorgeous figure of womanhood, while the guys, (she said) were fugly. And she felt pretty damn good, thinking about how they ignored her for being unattractive and contrasting it to the way she looks now.
The point of this is... well, it's a long story. See, last night I was thinking about a plot for a story where Apple, a girl, steps in to help out Mango, a guy, who is in a really bad place and needs help that he isn't getting. (Names are there for lulz.) With Apple's help, Mango gets his life back on track. They fall in love and get together.
And then I had a thought. "Hang on," thought I. "Doesn't this sound like a reward for Apple? 'You helped him get his shit straightened out- congratulations, your reward is him.'"
That was a pretty fucking disturbing thought. At first I thought, 'But that's not true. Spending so much time together helped them to form a bond. They've been friends and helped each other and such. It's not like she's his therapist and they had no other relationship but still got together." But the more I thought about it, it did seem like it was true: girl helps guy, and her reward is a relationship with him. Hell, it happens in reverse in a lot of stories- girl gets the guy as a reward for overcoming the plot, no matter how much or little interactions and attraction there was beforehand.
And then I thought of one of my former favourite series, David Eddings' Belgariad/Malloreon. I wrote an entire post about how fucked up that series is (along with almost everything else he wrote), and one of the major reasons I hate it now is because of the Prophecy. The Prophecy of Light basically spends the story making sure that the shit that needs to get done gets done. It rewards people who carry out these tasks with long, happy marriages.
Maybe that doesn't sound too bad. But to me it sounds like sexual slavery. "Sorry, I don't care about your opinions- some chick helped me out, so now you have to marry her. Cheers!'
I can think of a couple of examples- in Rick Riordan's series The Heroes of Olympus, one of our protagonists, Hazel, initially lived in 1942. If she'd been a normal girl, she would have grown up and married her best friend, Sammy Valdez, but she wasn't, so she ended up dying and coming back seventy years later. Sammy married another woman and had a decent life with her, but he never forgot Hazel, and Hazel never forgot him. I know the world isn't fair, but I'll quote Harry Dresden on this: That. Wasn't. Right. The plot took away Hazel's right to a decent life and dicked her over in more ways than I can count. And what about Sammy? Poor bastard lost his best friend and future wife.
Another example is in the Belgariad itself- had Garion been a normal guy, he would have married his childhood friend Zubrette, who he was half in love with when the story starts. He and the others go back to the farm in the fourth book, and he has to let her down by greeting her with an expression of affection and brotherly love, but no romantic love- and it breaks the poor girl's heart. Garion has to marry Ce'Nedra, you see, despite the fact that he's way too good for that manipulative fucker and he probably would have had a better life with Zubrette.
Yeah, Ce'Nedra is by far one of my least favourite characters ever. She's a complete bitch with pretty much no redeeming features whatsoever. I despise her.
Hell, even Polgara (who I also hate- someone as horrible as she is should not be allowed to take care of kids) gets an example. She stayed for years in Vo Wacune, an Arendish city, and eventually fell for one of the guys fighting to be her champion (they both fell for her, BTW). Unfortunately, the city was destroyed, and her man with it. God knows Polgara couldn't have a romance- no, she had to raise all those fucking kids and be untouched for Durnik. Jesus Christ.
You see my point? The story takes away your choices. The story dicks over everyone so you can fuck the person it thinks you should be fucking. The story will rape your mind so you have to like it.
Oh, and there's no gay people, of course. That would upset the natural order.
Seriously, if I ever have kids, I'm writing them a completely new set of fairy tales that encourage peace and love and LGBT people.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that romances need to be handled carefully, otherwise all you're doing is turning A into a reward for B. Try showing a romance formed from mutual love and respect and trust. Don't show a romance where B gets A because of how awesome he is. Give A a say in the matter. Or if you do, point out how bad those kinds of romances are. Please. Because otherwise, the implications with pile up, the bad taste in the readers' mouths will worsen and the books will get thrown at the wall.
And for fuck's sake, get some LGBT characters in there, people!
ACTA in a Nutshell –
What is ACTA? ACTA is the Anti-Counterfeiting Trade Agreement. A new intellectual property enforcement treaty being negotiated by the United States, the European Community, Switzerland, and Japan, with Australia, the Republic of Korea, New Zealand, Mexico, Jordan, Morocco, Singapore, the United Arab Emirates, and Canada recently announcing that they will join in as well.
Why should you care about ACTA? Initial reports indicate that the treaty will have a very broad scope and will involve new tools targeting “Internet distribution and information technology.”
What is the goal of ACTA? Reportedly the goal is to create new legal standards of intellectual property enforcement, as well as increased international cooperation, an example of which would be an increase in information sharing between signatory countries’ law enforcement agencies.
Essential ACTA Resources -
- Read more about ACTA here: ACTA Fact Sheet
- Read the authentic version of the ACTA text as of 15 April 2011, as finalized by participating countries here: ACTA Finalized Text
- Follow the history of the treaty’s formation here: ACTA history
- Read letters from U.S. Senator Ron Wyden wherein he challenges the constitutionality of ACTA: Letter 1 | Letter 2 | Read the Administration’s Response to Wyden’s First Letter here: Response
- Watch a short informative video on ACTA: ACTA Video
- Watch a lulzy video on ACTA: Lulzy Video
Say NO to ACTA. It is essential to spread awareness and get the word out on ACTA.Via Tumblr
In case you didn't know, on 12/12 they first announced sneakily on the Russian journal of LJ's design guy that with new changes being implemented tomorrow, there will be no more subject lines in comments and that this change was "non-negotiable" (good round-up and translation here). I'm sure you all realize that this will basically make fandom and RP communities unusable. LJ's staff, however, doesn't give a shit. At least 18 pages of 100% negative feedback didn't sway them.
They've backpedaled some and will make keeping comment subject lines optional in some S2 styles, but the default (that 99% of communities are running right now) will decidedly be subject-less! Not to mention that their new and frankly, fucking ugly design will take forever to load and make the site a pain to use on mobile browsers.
And oh, it looks like they might be taking away the drop-down menu to select icons as well, so you'll have to load all your icons as pictures to select them. Lovely. (I will beta-test tonight to see if this is actually true.)
Really, I don't know why I'm surprised. LJ is always fucking with the parts of the site that actually work and breaking them, so this is just another instance of that. Because seriously, who are subject lines hurting by just being there? (And no, it can't be a matter of server strain, considering the new "graphic" interface will definitely be using up more resources - so much fun when there's DDoS attacks!)
As far as I know, they've never once listened to their customers, so those thousands of comments already posted probably won't do shit. I've left a message expressing my concerns about the new comment pages here anyway; so if you want to do that too, go for it! If anything, it helps with the rage. ;)
To sum up, in my own ( neotoma) words: as of tomorrow, no more subject lines for comment in S1 styles at all, possibly some subject lines in S2 if you know to do it, and no more drop-down menu for icons.
This entry was originally posted at http://neotoma.dreamwidth.org/268075.
Astra: Three words: Fuck this shit.
(click the link for the full article)
Our novel Stranger has five viewpoint characters; one, Yuki Nakamura, is
gay and has a boyfriend. Yuki's romance, like the heterosexual ones in
the novel, involves nothing more explicit than kissing.
An agent from a major agency, one which represents a bestselling YA novel in the same genre as ours, called us.
The agent offered to sign us on the condition that we make the gay
character straight, or else remove his viewpoint and all references to
his sexual orientation.
This isn't about that specific agent; we'd gotten other rewrite requests before this one. Previous agents had also offered to take a second look if we did rewrites… including cutting the viewpoint of Yuki, the gay character.
It's time to stand up and demand change. Spread the word everywhere if you are just as angry and outraged by this.
Astra: Are they fucking serious? No way can this shit continue. That's just horrible.
You know what annoys me? The collective Internet acting like everyone lives in America- and the Northern Hemisphere.
You see it all the time. People asking about how cold winter is for you, when it's summer here. People asking you why you're awake so late at night, when it's 11 AM where you are.
It's on LJ, too. The shop has Thanksgiving stuff right now. OK, but think: America (and Canada, I think) are not the only countries in the world. England doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving. China doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving. Australia doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving. But we don't exist, do we?
Seriously, people. Think outside the continent.
I'll begin with the Belgariad/Malloreon.
( Cut for length and mention of death, rape and other lovely things. )
Mississippi is voting on November 8th on whether to pass Amendment 26, the "Personhood Amendment". This amendment would grant fertilized eggs and fetuses personhood status.
Putting aside the contentious issue of abortion, this would effectively outlaw birth control and criminalize women who have miscarriages. This is not a good thing.
Jackson Women's Health Organization is the only place women can get abortions in the entire state, and they are trying to launch a grassroots movement against this amendment. This doesn't just apply to Mississippi, though, as Personhood USA, the group that introduced this amendment, is trying to introduce identical amendments in all 50 states.
What's more, in Mississippi, this amendment is expected to pass. It even has Mississippi Democrats, including the Attorney General, Jim Hood, backing it.
The reason I'm posting this here is because I made a meager donation to the Jackson Women's Health Organization this morning, and I received a personal email back hours later - on a Sunday - thanking me and noting that I'm one of the first "outside" people to contribute.
So if you sometimes pass on political action because you figure that enough other people will do something to make a difference, make an exception on this one. My RSS reader is near silent on this amendment. I only found out about it through a feminist blog. The mainstream media is not reporting on it.
If there is ever a time to donate or send a letter in protest, this would be it.
What to do?
- Read up on it. Wake Up, Mississippi is the home of the grassroots effort to fight this amendment. Daily Kos also has a thorough story on it.
- If you can afford it, you can donate at the site's link.
- You can contact the Democratic National Committee to see why more of our representatives aren't speaking out against this.
- Like this Facebook page to help spread awareness.
Has anyone supporting this law realised that by outlawing abortions and criminalizing miscarriages, they're going to force women into going to back-street abortionists and thus raise the possibility of illegal abortion-caused deaths? And that forcing a woman to carry a child to term- which is what this law will do- is a form of torture? And what about victims of rape or incest? Did anyone think this shit over at all?
One: Most people who state their opinions on a forum do so expecting that said opinions will stay on that forum.
Two: Everyone has their own right to state their opinion.
And having taken those factors into account, my response is this: arseholes to the lot of them.
Yes, everyone has a right to state their opinion- but personal attacks on her just because she said things they don't like is just wrong. I'll admit that I've been guilty of similar things in the past, but what they said goes beyond 'this person is a moron who doesn't have a clue what they're talking about'. Deciding to ignore her stating that in parts, she was speaking for someone else was stupid. And anyway, I am really looking forward to their responses once she posts the next video and calls them out by name.
I think part of my anger comes from the fact that I know her and they don't, and they're talking about her like they do. They don't know why she posted those videos, and yet they talk like they do, and like their hypothesis is the only valid reason. They disregarded things she said for no real reason. They shrugged her off as a bitter ex-fan, a troll and a hater, when she made points in a more reasonable and clear way than most trolls or haters... OK, the fact that she actually was trolling is relevant. And honestly, insulting her hair and her voice and the fact that she doesn't have public speaking skills... fuck the lot of them.
Just makes me wonder why I ever was a part of their hive mind.
Yes, you read me correctly.
Angelspit. Industrial quintet known for their recurring themes of blood, death, ivory, cannibalism, torture, medical shit and anti-conformity.
Touring with Blood On The Dance Floor, one of the worst bands to come out of the US excepting BrokenCYDE. The band who gave us wonderful works such as 'Bitches Get Stitches' and 'Money And Hoes'.
Whoever thought this was a good idea should be hit with something hard. Repeatedly.